happy birthday meggie

to my amazing sister, best friend, aunt , godmother, our meggie

wishing you a very happy and blessed birthday for today, may there be many, many,many more!

stay the incredible, kind, loving, giving, supportive person you are

you are so loved and treasured and adored

may our gracious lord continue to bless you in every way- you heart is huge and you are so giving to all those that you can help

its been an honor watching you arrive into the world and our bond start as big and little sister- then have you go to school with me and then have to wait 2 years for you to join me in high school again- watching you leave for london, and missing you more then i thought imagineable- taking on all the boyfriends that dared to hurt me- watching you fall in love and then cry as i watched my baby sister walk down the aisle- to travelling the world and becoming so wise - becoming an aunt to logan and deqlan and the love and care and protection you show for them both-to standing by our side as deqie recieved his miracle of healing - to watching you become a mommy yourself to the most beautiful kids you could have been blessed with!

i look forward to all the memories to come, all the laughter and adventures to

know how much you are loved and how proud we are of you!

god bless you happy birthday all our love and more

mark tom deqie logs

xxxx

that's more like it

we were delighted to see our happy, cute, laughing boy again last night- deqlan seemed much more settled and happier then he has been this week

no tears at school this morning either

he still wants to be in control of alot of things like opening and closing doors again and putting his clothes on and off and is still asking to drive in our cars but its getting better thank you lord

we both off to the doc this afternoon as we have a nice dose of sinusitis which i think may call for more antibiotics , lets see.....

got a busy weekend up ahead preparing for deqlans blast off birthday party next weekend, megs birthday celebrations, ethans birthday and lisa's birthday celebrations - so we got to feel better soon!

before i go, asking for extra special prayer requests for my grandpa who is battling so much with his hip and experiencing increased pain

enjoy the weekend everyone

god bless and love us

be still and know that i am god

" you wanna dada's car"

Deqlan has been a little unsettled and frustarted the last few days, especially when it comes to us or his teacher saying no to something or wanting him to do something at a specific time

the rest of the day at little leaps he is happy though until we get there to fetch him and he gets upset again - you can imagine how great that makes me feel - ayline says she doesnt understand it cause he misses us in the day so is happy to see nanna and me, but just cries when we arrive ?? doesnt make sense hey?

this also spills over into sleep time - he cried so much yesterday afternoon when nanna tried to get him to nap- deqlan was continuosly crying for mamas car or dadas car- nanna got deqlan to sleep after an hour of trying

as soon as we got home he started crying for dada or mamas car again " you wanna drive"

last night it took me over an hour to get him to sleep which is just so unlike him??

we didnt let him sleep this afternoon and he had a wonderful afternoon full of fun and laughter with nanna - but the moment we got home was crying for a ride in mama or dadas car?

he was tired earlier then usually tonight cause he missed the afternoon nap, but once in bed and ready to sleep, deqie started getting upset again and asking us to take him driving

now of course we would take him driving at any time but i think its a phase again - he used to do this quite a while ago and it got better over time, so we just got to be patient and wait it out or figure it out. we cant take hm driving every time he asks or thats all we will be doing :)

please pray for our big boy to feel more settled tomorow

sleep tight god bless all our love

be still and know that i am god

beautiful moments

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we had such a lovely morning at the association for autism suppport group get together at besters bird park and zoo

deqlan wanted to leave the minute we got there , he seemd tired and its a new place and there waas a vot of noise from the birds and other animals " you wanna dadas car !" deqlan often says you instead of i, as thats how we ask him questions " do you want ......" so he often says " you want" instead of " i want" but for alot of things he has started saying i, we will get there for sure !

anyway, we tried to push him just a little just to give the place a chance and first got him to feed the tortoises. for the first time ever he was actually interested in interacting with an animal properly and even stroked his head and felt his legs :) was amazing to see

then we took him past the monekys, kangaroo's, guinea pigs and bunnies and went into the little arfea with the baby chickens with him still asking for dads car. clever nanna picked up a baby chick and immediately got a smile and interest from deqlan! i was so grateful to get these photos as i think they show his absolute delight with them! he loved holding them and touching them, a little to rough at times, but we kept telling him and showing him how - it was so wonderful to see and i will treasure these moments always!

what a wonderful way to spend our anniversary!

rejoice in the lord always and again i say rejoice!

happy 6 years my love

happy happy 6 year wedding anniversary my love!!

thank you for all my favourite chocolates hand delivered by deqlan this morning

thank you for another incredible year of growth, love, support and all things wonderful

thank you for being an amazing husband and father i am so very proud of you

asking our lord to give us a lifetime of anniversaries to come endless happiness and for us to continue growing us one

love you so very much, mrs higgins

"a ha moment"

I've really been enjoying getting into as many autism themed books as i possibly can

now of course i dont have many leisurely hours each day to read them, so i grab every spare moment to read even if its 5 pages a night before going to slip

i loved house rules by jodi piccoult - wow it was amazing and i highly recommend it - i couldnt put it down! nanna also loved reading it. she did her research thoroughly on what a person with autism goes through. she also played out many humerous situations which had me smiling and laughing out loud numerous times!

the next one i climbed into was, not my boy by rodney peete. such a hopeful story such an excellent guidebook for families. what i loved most was that it was written by a dad, so other dads can relate and so moms can understand where dads are coming from ! he gives the amazing story of rj's recovery and many references and ideas to help other families, cant wait for mark to read it, i hope he does, he isnt much of a reader but i know he will relate and enjoy it

my favourite at the moment is, healing our autistic children, a medical plan for restoring your childs health, by dr julie buckley. you may recall me mentioning her name as my favourite speaker at the autism is treatable conference i attended in cape town. ive only just started and already had a huge lightbulb "a ha opprah moment"

our amazing family and friends and even strangers have complimented mark and me and nanna on the great job and hard work we have put into deqlans progress and recovery , and we thank you all for your love and support and best wishes!

but,

its truly deqlan who is putting in the hardest work of all - being on a strict diet and not being allowed the things his peers enjoy, sitting through hours of therapy and lessons, being told not to do something this way, but rather that way, making himself understood when he cant yet put all the words together the way he would want to. you see friends, how hard our boy has to work?

so all the acolations and praises are directly for you my sweetheart! we are so proud of you and know how hard you work each day to understand he world around you and we promise to continue doing all we can to help you in every way we can!!!! we love you and adore you and we are so incredibly proud of you!!!may our amazing lord continue to bless you and guide you and help you every single step of thid wonderful journey, he to loves you beyond words !

mamas+papas

check out the august edition of mamas and papas for an article loren did on autism, with an insert on deqlans story as well as our friend anna from association for autism :)

deqlan's flavour of the moment

the weather channel!!!!

deqlan even got logie lying next to him nice and cosy last night to watch the weather channel with him!

Khloes graduation

Deqlans doing great!

deqlan has been doing fantastic! no pain meds needed today! nanna had another look into his throat and she says most of the scabs are off and his throat looking great! he is eating and singing and laughing and running! thank you lord for helping deqlan heal so beautifully! thanks for all the prayers - we go for check up with dr venter 18 august :)

Getting there

Just a quick update to say thanks for all the prayers and emails and messages :)
Deqlan is doing great - we have had our rough moments, Sunday Morning and early hours of this morning he was having some pain and was crying and frustrated, but thank Our Lord, he seems much better today - he has great spells of eating, and then today, not really wanting to eat as much but we will continue encouraging as that is whats going to help the healing!
Nanna and i had a quick look in his throat today and Nanna says its looking good, the scabs have started to fall off , and that could be causing increased pain to, watching him closely , thanks for all the prayers
God Bless
love us
BE STILL AND KNOW THAT I AM GOD